The conversation on my Twitter timeline this morning was whether you really are engaged (with a wedding date) or did he just shut you up.
I know people personally that have been engaged for years, literally. When asked about the “big day”, usually they blow off the question with “we’re still talking about it”, or “we’ve got too much going on right now and when things settle, we’ll start planning”. I leave those type of conversations wondering if they’re engaged or did he just shut her up?
I’ve seen this scenario play time in and time out (in a Tyler Perry fashion) in my community. They’re dating and usually living together. The female wakes up one day and realizes that she’s been giving all she’s got to a man that hasn’t mentioned the “big” commitment yet. She starts dropping subtle hints while passing the jewelry stores inside the mall, bringing home Bride magazines for the coffee table and researching exotic honeymoon locations.
Yet the big day never happens, jobs eventually change, holidays fall on top of each other, and life gets in the way. So she waits. Then one day she wakes up and it dawns on her she’s been engaged for five years and they are no closer to getting on with it than they were the night he asked. And in that moment she finally understands she was never really engaged, he just shut her up.
Don’t let him shut you up ladies!